Even flowers will have its time- dry-out and fade-away....
What DO you do when someone you love stop loving you? What COULD you do when someone that you love stop loving you?
I was watching this series today that the (silly) girl tried to save her marriage when she knew that her husband was cheating on her with her best friend. Instead of confronting them, she tried to save the marriage by blaming herself. Blame herself for not paying enough attention, blame herself for not being good enough, blame herself for EVERYTHING that she thinks she failed to do....
I judged the girl for being silly
I judged her for being desperate
I judged her for being weak
I judged her for living in denial
I should not have judged her at all because I am not living in her "shoes"
I am trying to make this note here to remind myself in the future, if I feel the way that she is feeling now, I should STOP immediately. Or else I will be judged for being silly, desperate and weak.
There is nothing anyone could do when the "love" disappeared. There is really nothing one could do to save the "love".
If there is any way, it would only be "twisted" truth and it will not last long. You are only living in denial - hallucinating. Why risk it? Why make yourself suffer? Why make him suffer? Why make everyone around you suffer?
Just face it, do not push it.
Here is one of my favourite song when I was younger. This song says it all.... There are several version of this songs sang by different artists but I prefer the original singer - 熊天平.
It makes me cry every time I listen to it. It just proves how good a singer he is. I hope you will appreciate it like I do. *wink*
2 comments:
How about this? When the person still loves you but you no longer love that person? Would you still continue the relationship?
I've a friend who's married and has a child. She claimed that she no longer loves her hubby as he "loves" her too much - as in he seldoms give her the freedom she needs. For the sake of her child, she continues her relationship with her hubby.
What do you think?
First question - it depends who he is. If he is my bf, I would not continue the relationship. If he was my husband, I would probably have to reconsider. It also depends on how much I like him and how good a person he is. When you do not love someone, it does not mean you do not like him. Unless I really dislike the sight of him. Then, I cannot force myself to act. My married friends often advise me to get someone who loves me more than I love him. That way, the marriage stays. I do not understand when I was younger, and probably still not fully comprehend now, but hopefully I will understand when it comes.
Second question -She stays in the marriage for the child's sake, which happens to a lot of the family these days. I have no comment on that. It is a subjective question. Like i said in my blog, I cannot judge because I am not in her position. It is unfair for her.
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